the last thing I feel like doing right now is writing. In fact the last thing I feel like doing is anything at all. In one day it just seems like the world has ended or it’s preparing to do so. And I can’t even write without using fucking cliches!
I am forcing myself to write this down though so that I can process my thoughts a little. Writing always helps for me. Not always to make me get totally happy again, but it certainly put things into a slightly different perspective.
Before I tell you what happened though, I need to finish the storry about M, Bee and me.
M and I had gotten really close friends by mid July and he was the only person who kept me sain during my rainy summer holidays back in Norway before my graduation. Before that though was the hen party for KJ where Bee was the made of honour. It was stranger and stranger seeing Bee again. she knew I had lots of contact with M, but I didn’t know at that time how much against that she actually was. So, the tone between us was quite good and it was a good party, only little comments from Bee’s friend Shelly who had joined her from Glasgow that remotely related to Bee’s sexlife with M just made me feel something, I don’t quite know what it was, but I still wasn’t clear about my feelings for M, just that I thought Bee was very lucky to be with him.
I got back to Edinburgh the day after the hen party, the day before Bee and Shelly would return. I immediately texted M to let him know I was back in the country. Him and I waere texting back and forth until he phoned me. We had quite a long conversation where, among other things he hinted to the fact that he wasn’t sure whether our type of friendship was right in relation to Bee. that surprised me as there was nothing between us but friendship, but this was also what gave me first indication of there possibly being something more.
Two days later, he text me and appologized for having behaved strangely on the phone that day and we kept texting as normal till my graduation day where he, among other people of course, was going to attend. It was a really good sermony and party after that. I had brought a lot of family from Norway, and they and my scottish friends were happily conversing with each other. He made a spontanious but good speech and I think it was then it started to dawn on me, although I wasn’t quite sure before Saturday when he kind of said it straight out that I had a big crush on him. I could go through how the texting went that day, but I don’t really have the energy. I did understand that it wasn’t just me who had feelings though although he was very indirect.
We put all the cards on the table Wednesday July 17th whenever he phoned me from his business trip. I was back in Norway then, so he had spent and absolute fortune on me. We spoke for about four hours about things and I said that he should never leave Bee for me. He agreed to that.And he wasn’t sure if he even wanted to leave Bee.
Three days after that, it was KJ and Mr. H’s wedding. I had had three days of being quite nervous about the whole thing because Bee and M were both gonna be there and I was wondering how we would all behave. I got there for the coffee as KJ just spontaniously had invited me to the wedding last minute. Apparently Bee’s speech had been a great success and I was happy for her. M was wearing a kilt and he looked damn hot in it! It was so hard not to just throw my arms around him and kiss him right there, but in stead we spent the night foot flurting and at some point we were holding hands, something we had to stop doing quickly in case anyone would see it. I got a good feel of that kilt though and it was a good excuse for letting my hand rest on his thigh.
We met up the next day as well for an afterparty at the bride and grooms place. It had been a nice wedding and they, the bridal couple I mean had both been very good looking. The afterparty was a little strange though. There was a wee tention between me, Bee and M. M and I kept on foot flurting when we got the chance to sit next to each other.
It was a very exhausting weekend emotionally, but it had been fun too. Good to catch up with other old friends that had been there. M and I couldn’t communicate propperly though, so we did it via emails, some of which were quite sexy!
After that weekend Bee and M started having serious arguments, and when I moved to London the next week, they were no longer living together. I had kept in touch with M all that time, but not with Bee. I don’t even think she wanted to speak to me. She was convinced I was trying to split them up, which wasn’t the case even though I did hope they would split up in a way. But M and I spoke a lot on the phone and he came to see me in London two weeks later. I have already written about that though, and many more sexy details of our relationship will be posted. I still love him lots and want to write it all down so that I can remember it.
I was the happiest little thing till about mid October till he phoned me and said that he needed a break. That things with me and him had happened too quickly after he split up with Bee and that he had to reconsider a lot of things in his life. I thought it was quite sensible in a way, although it hit me hard and I was sure I was going to lose him. He had a hard time too. He had moved across the world to be with Bee and his entire network was built up around her circle of friends. He had lost most of them and I knew that when he wasn’t seeing me, he was feeling quite screwed up. I drank a lot in the first few weeks after the conversation and had incoherent phone conversation to my best friend Len in Norway, who assured me that things were gonna be alright. Then, after too much drinking, panick attacks and evenings of hysteric crying, I finally got the GP to give me anti depressives, which had I not been on them now, I don’t know how I would have reacted to things. I got sleeping pills too. At least they keep me going at the moment.
It was good I had started them when I spoke to M on the phone yesterday. He told me that he wasn’t sure when he was going to have things sorted out, and that it was best that he didn’t have a relationship with me at the moment. He didn’t want me to be dragged along in his shit waiting around for whenever he was ready to start something. He said it could take a very long time. I am devestated about this, and wasn’t able to go to work this morning. I stayed in bed texting my closest friends telling them my life was fucked up and the HB invited me for dinner this evening. I’m gonna go see HMF tomorrow hopefully and Len is fixing some tickets for me so I can go stay with her for a week. I think leaving the country helps even though I am going to Malaysia soon. I just feel so shitty right now. I can’t describe it.
well done if you’ve managed to read this entire post all the way through without falling asleep. I’m afraid you’ll have to bare with me being fucked up at the moment, but will try to be slightly more entertaining in future posts. This is truly the worst things that happened to me though and although he didn’t give me hopes or said otherwise I can’t help but hoping for me and M to get back togetherw